For those of you walking along your own sober journey, have you found that you REALLY rely on quit lit? Like can’t go a day or two without reading? Like if you STOPPED reading, you’d soon reach for a drink? I definitely do. My list of books could almost fill a library.
Here goes (in no particular order):
This Naked Mind, The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober, We are the Luckiest, The Sober Diaries, Sober Curious, Alcohol Explained I, Alcohol Explained II, Sober Positive, Nothing Good Can Come From This, Allen Carr’s Easy Way to Control Alcohol, Drink: The Relationship Between Women and Alcohol, Kick the Drink….Easily, Mrs. D is Going Without, The Alcohol Experiment, The Sober Survival Guide, The Easy Way to Stop Drinking, Atomic Habits, How to Quit Alcohol in 30 Days, Go Ask Alice, The Sober Girl Sobriety Handbook, The Happiest Hour, Tired of Thinking About Drinking: Take my 100 Day Sober Challenge, The Easy Way for Women to Stop Drinking, The Abstinence Myth….
You get the point.
I read. A lot.
It’s probably my strongest most successful tool in helping me to abstain (for the periods when I do). The first book I ever bought I DEVOURED in a matter of hours. I had to keep reminding myself to slow down, to let all the info sink in. And to this day it’s my absolute favorite. It is….drumroll please…
If you ever want to know the science behind why you drink, this is a phenomenal book to help you understand. Annie’s “voice,” her story, hit home. I felt so much like her; she could’ve easily been sharing a significant chunk of my history as her own. Her introduction in the book snatched me within seconds. The more I read, the more I felt akin to this woman. Accepted. It was like I’d found a friend, a family member even, who understood what I was going through (in my real life I’m surrounded by drinkers, many friends who I would consider heavy). Annie welcomed me without judgement, encouraged me without berating, she invited me to explore what my life could look like sans booze.
My second favorite book–more of a memoir style–is…
Talk about a woman I can relate to! Clare Pooley’s “Mommy Minus Wine” adventures, her highs and lows during her first year of sobriety appealed to me on sooooooo many levels. I absolutely loved her wit, her sense of humor, her overall candor in sharing her personal story. Having two kids of my own–one 13 years old and one 10–I can understand where she’s coming from. The stage in her life when she wrote this book mirrors mine, mostly. Though I am not a stay-at-home Mom, I juggle this role, completely get this role, as I continue to work fulltime AND try to abstain from alcohol. If I could, I’d knuckle-bump Clare, smile, and say, “I’m there with ya’.”
One of my other favorite books is:
Why? Because it’s just that–positive! So many quit lit books focus on the “quit” side of drinking, in essence how to, but this book reveals what your life could be like AFTER. There is no gloom and doom, no deep discussion of “the struggle”, there is a focus on what you gain. The freedom, the happiness, the amazing clarity that can become yours if you are to give up booze for good. Julia lights a fire underneath your butt. She provides you with not just a silver lining, but sunshine and rainbows. Hope.
Reading these quit lit books, I feel part of a community. Maybe this is why I enjoy them so much. For the half hour or the hour of the day I get to read (late at night or early morning), I am not alone in my fight not to drink. I have friends, authors I can turn to. I have a moment of peace.